This is a very good analysis of the concept of irresistibility and who is responsible in a relationship for the power attached thereto. Highly recommended reading!
Perhaps I’m contrary and ungrateful but I never felt good about being told by a lover “You are irresistible.” I’d much rather he or she said something like “I can’t resist you” and in that utterance, joyfully assumed the burden of supernatural compulsion instead of burdening me with it.
It would also be much more honest if things went wrong and my lover said “I now can/must resist you because my wife caught me, or I found someone else, or I’ve changed my mind” or whatever event provoked a change in his or her assessment of the situation. Instead of undermining my sense of myself with their change of heart, the responsibility then properly rests with the one whose desires, for whatever reason, have shifted.
I’ve never in my life found anyone to be irresistible. I’ve been overwhelmed by desire, overwhelmed by love, overwhelmed by seriously significant stupidity, but overwhelmed…
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