I almost cried today. Not is sadness or sorrow, but in sheer utter frustration. You see, I read an article in The Age, “Behind every great woman stands an unhappy man“.
Simply, men don’t like it when the love of their life takes the lead. Especially if she wins in in the same game he’s playing.
Drawing from a series of studies carried out on hundreds of heterosexual student couples, lead researcher Dr Kate Ratliff explains men are more likely to feel subconsciously good if their partner failed, than if she succeeded.
If this research had come from deepest, darkest Africa or the jungles of South America, both places where modern education and enlightenment may be lagging, I may not have been so frustrated. Unfortunately, this was AMERICAN research! You know, the United States of America, one of the leading western democracies, outwardly very supportive of equality of all types. The research had looked at other cultures, including the Netherlands. Same results there.
What frustrated me even more was a comment on the article.
“Salient realisation that the male of the species is meant to be the dominant partner”? This took me right back to a couple of old articles on this site:
Who actually believes this nonsense? I am considerably older than the median age of all people on this planet and I have NEVER been “educated” to believe this stuff. Not by my parents, not at school, not at university nor in the workplace.
Is it any wonder men think they can get away with the sort of comments that lead to my recent summary of the furor over Tony Abbott’s “sex appeal” gaffe.
I HOPE, but am not optimistic, that the guy from Brisbane was simply writing his comment to stir the pot.
I DO NOT want to believe most men are still so ancient as to subscribe to this caveman-age belief.
Yet I am reminded of a conversation the other day between Mr 12 and Miss 10.
Miss 10: “Why do you boys think you are better than girls?”
Mr 12: “We don’t.”
Miss 10: “Yes, you do!”
I am not sure what prompted this exchange, other than the fact us females of the household had been digging the veggie patch, much to the teenage boys’ surprise.
If this is the “common” thought in society, STILL, how am I supposed to raise these girls to believe, as I was raised so many years ago, that they can do anything? Even be Prime Minister of Australia!
Come on men of Australia – let us all hear you are an evolved species!
When you are voting in Australia tomorrow, be very aware of the question of gender equality. Very aware.
Addendum: It seems to me I have heard that same “natural order of things” excuse in relation to the question of racism.