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I am a woman of calibre

Well, well, well: I’m a woman of calibre. How nice for me! I don’t earn that much, but the rest of it fits!

I never got a cent of paid parental leave. I didn’t get a baby bonus either, or a first home owners’ grant. I did earn a degree and damn hard work it was too. Readers of my memoir already know my parents both committed suicide when I was 15. I left school. I earned my degree working full-time, studying part-time and raising two kids. It was bloody hard work. I did Year 12 part-time over two years before I started the degree and missed medicine by 3 marks. I never did Year 11 at all.

Melanie

Melanie

Personally I have never believed in paid parental leave, but I’ll come to that. The baby bonus was just stupid. Here we are with a massively over-populated planet and we started paying people a bonus to have a baby while China has a one baby policy. W. T. F.? Billions of us on this planet and we started encouraging people to produce MORE of us? Not only encouraging, but PAYING! The mind boggles.

Paid parental leave? No. I believe in parental leave, most definitely. I think it is a wonderful thing if companies incorporate child care in their employment policies, as a number of companies do. I support flexible hours for parents and working from home.

I will support a parental benefit for single income families (be that one parent or two) but not for dual income families. What we SHOULD be doing is making it financially possible for families to live on one income. Before you accuse me of wanting to return to the 1950s, I am not suggesting we women of calibre pop on our lippy at 5pm and put a bow in our hair to be pretty for hubby after his hard day at the office. I am saying I believe the best thing for children is to have a parent at home until they reach school age. Yes, I know there are mountains of research papers out there arguing for and against having a parent at home and I have made my choice. Did I get to do it? No. Do parents get to do it now? Many do not. A parent may manage to take 12 months off before the economic realities of life today drive them back to work.

So the difference between when I was young and now isn’t that much. I’ve heard it said, and I tend to agree, we want too much. We want the McMansion AND kids. Five TVs and two cars and a holiday in Spain every year. That is where the economic realities of life drivers come from for many – not the economy, but social pressures. If a couple have over-extended themselves on their mortgage to buy the McMansion, THAT is what I am subsidising, not the childbearing. I will be paying an extra x dollars at the supermarket for someone else’s big house, yet I can’t afford my own. It is those who can least afford the increase in their weekly budgets that will end up paying for the women of calibre to receive a benefit they wouldn’t need if they had planned better.

For others, they are lucky to afford one car and one TV and the paid parental leave may well be of great financial comfort. But let me ask this: if people can’t afford to take six months off work to have this child, I can’t see how on earth they will afford to raise the child. Yes, I know surprises happen but realistically having children is something we should be planning. In this day and age, the Pope notwithstanding, planning parenthood is not that difficult. Trust me, having a child isn’t the expensive bit. Getting them to 21 is the expensive bit.

Oh, the aging population, you say? We need more kids to pay taxes to keep us all into our old age? There are enough people on this planet already, we really need to curb our population growth and relocate rather than procreate!

I cannot accept it is society’s responsibility to subsidise people’s childbearing. Give parents every non-financial support in the world, but I draw the line at paid parental leave. I know this may be an opinion that will be unpopular with some. I accept that. I also recognise that given I do support public health systems, public education and  the National Disability Insurance Scheme I might be accused of not knowing if I am left or right. I’ll wear that charge – I’m a paradox, I admit it.

Besides, wasn’t Joe Hockey worried about the “entitlement mentality” about a year ago? What happened?

EDIT: For every argument or perspective, there is a counter argument or alternative perspective. I recommend you pop over to Crooked Fences to read Paid Parental Leave: Are we throwing out the feminist baby with the bathwater? for an alternate view.

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16 comments on “I am a woman of calibre

  1. […] I believe we should have universal health care and education. I don’t think we should be funding elite breeding schemes or wasting money on school chaplains and marriage counselling vouchers. The Liberal government […]

  2. […] when he made his stance against the entitlement mentality. How on earth that got translated to the Paid Parental Leave scheme is beyond me. Thankfully the upper limit has been dramatically dropped. Then again, maybe we […]

  3. […] it isn’t just the planes, Joe. You have this crazy plan to spend MY tax money on paid parental leave at an exorbitant cost, yet tell us we may not have medicine for sick children. So we’ll pay to […]

  4. […] So pensions go down but New Start goes up? We can’t afford pensions but we can afford the Paid Parental Leave […]

  5. […] I cannot, absolutely cannot, condone a combination of policies that forces single parents of children back into the workforce but at the same time wants to pay such high parental leave to produce more children. Let’s concentrate on educating and employing the children we already have rather than paying people huge amounts to have more. I’ve previously given my opinion of the PPL scheme. […]

  6. […] Removal of the PPL (restricting the power of over-burdensome government) […]

  7. […] in the Liberal Party (and, I suggest, the coalition overall). Is there really NOT more than ONE woman of sufficient calibre in the Liberal Party to rate a cabinet position? The ONE woman that did make it has, effectively, been demoted. Julie […]

  8. […] To me it is just plain lack of intelligence and education. I do not need or want people of such low calibre governing this great […]

  9. I too was lucky enough to have been home for the first 5 or 6 years of my kids life, until they started Primary school and they are much better off for having had my attention and care.
    In Australia I find childcare is so expensive, even though parents get some sort of refund from the State, but I sometimes think that unless the mother earns a fortune she might be better off staying home for a couple of years.
    I agree with better support systems for parents at work places.

    • My sister stayed home. We worked out how much she could earn, minus the costs of working (child care, work clothes, travel etc) and she would have been left with $20 a week! This was back in the pre-subsidy days. Plus she had 4 kids and no formal quals.

      Glad you got to stay home with yours Sami! :)

  10. I think the entitlement culture exists in the UK too. Several of my cousins have no intention of working. They’ve had kids young and live off the state. A sad life plan, that’s for sure, especially when the rest of us have to fund it.

    • Stewie, I am thinking of writing a follow-up article, as the pollie who got into all the trouble over his word use was, I believe, trying to say just what you are saying but he stuffed it up. Badly! I’m harsh as I would licence people to have kids in the first place! :)

      However, don’t think my plan would ever win popular approval!

  11. I think the baby bonus was brought in to tackle the ‘aging population’ problem, remember the infamous ‘have one for the mother, one for the father, and one for the country’ speech? And then in the next bulletin they go on about our lack of resources!? That said, while I was grateful for it (we put ours towards a safer car), I agree with you. It should be more economically feasible for a parent to stay home. I believe it’s better for most kids. I wanted to be the one to raise my son full-time, and we managed it by being careful, however as we brought our house under a ‘shared-equity’ loan, that helped immensely…if we had already been committed to a full mortgage we simply would have had to sell, or I would have had to work full time.

    I felt a bit disheartened when we worked out how much better off we’d have been renting with a health care card after I got sick, so that’s what I do now I’m single, it works out better for me to rent my house out, declare it as income, and rent elsewhere. I actually hate not fully supporting myself, but while I’m not well enough to work, this is my best option :(

    Sorry to ramble – yes I agree with you, and I hated seeing friends just wanting everything now now now and getting into debt for tvs and flash cars…always seemed ridiculous and I was the youngest of the lot haha x

    • Thanks for the feedback. I am sad you are not well – I will keep you in my thoughts, although that really won’t help much, I know.

      I’m still getting over the whole Hockey entitlement mentality versus “here, have a PPL” – makes NO sense at all.

      You can only do what you can do, and by the sounds of it, you have made wise decisions given your circumstances.

  12. I stayed at home when my children were little, until they started school. They learnt many things as a result, including to read fluently because I had the time. We created things every day, played mud pies in the garden and had lots of friends to play. We didn’t watch tv all day and there were no computer games. They didn’t have many changes of clothes and had just the right amount of toys, we went without material things and didn’t feel hard done by!

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